【聯合報／蘇詠智】
好萊塢浪漫喜劇片曾經在台灣有過非常風光的票房佳績，最具代表性的銀幕情侶檔中，湯姆漢克斯與梅格萊恩都具備「鄰家」親切特質，格外贏得觀眾喜愛，兩人3度主演的「跳火山的人」、「西雅圖夜未眠」、「電子情書」，台灣票房走勢是一路往上，尤其「電子情書」不但將同檔轟動全台的日本恐怖片「七夜怪談」壓下，也風光打進全台年度外片賣座榜Top 10，比不少特效動作片都熱賣。
湯姆漢克斯與梅格萊恩會成為銀幕情侶組合，其實也是意外，最早女編劇諾拉艾芙蓉的作品「當哈利碰上莎莉」籌拍時，湯姆漢克斯認為劇本的分量太輕，不過是插科打諢而已，沒有接下男主角，結果梅格萊恩等待半天，等到比利克里斯托點頭接演，片子上映後出奇大賣，湯姆漢克斯發現自己看走眼，但比利克里斯托也沒有再和梅格萊恩繼續攜手下去，梅格下一部片就換成與湯姆漢克斯搭檔合演「跳火山的人」。
「跳火山的人」雖然是「發暈」金獎編劇約翰派屈克山利編導，卻讓影評人抱怨浪費一個還算有潛力的題材，湯姆漢克斯與梅格萊恩的第一次攜手並沒有亮眼成績。說也奇怪，湯姆、梅格之後兩年多各自有新的銀幕搭檔，卻都沒有賣出好成績，終於諾拉艾芙蓉完成「西雅圖夜未眠」的劇本，原本考慮過丹尼斯奎德、茱莉亞羅勃茲等扮演男女主角，繞了一大圈之後，促成湯姆漢克斯與梅格萊恩第2度合作，有趣的是，兩人直到片子快結束才真的有對手戲，搭檔地有點勉強，然而片子的票房竟比「跳火山的人」多出3倍多，也讓他們終於成為通過賣座考驗的黃金銀幕情侶檔。
於是到了數年後的「電子情書」，諾拉艾芙蓉在籌備之初就沒換過男女主角人選，各方也都期待「西雅圖夜未眠」鐵3角再攜手，諾拉向來喜愛用經典老片為新作加持，「當哈利碰上莎莉」中有「北非諜影」，「西雅圖夜未眠」有「金玉盟」，「電子情書」中不只有「教父」，全片主要設定、發展都脫胎自匈牙利劇作家米克羅斯拉斯洛在1937年於布達佩斯劇院首演的腳本「香水店」，兩年多後由德國裔名導劉別謙改編成了電影「小店鴛鴦」，在抗戰時期的「孤島」上海曾經上映，至今已被視為好萊塢經典文藝片。
「小店鴛鴦」描述兩個在禮品店工作的男女，互相不滿意對方，但意外成為筆友、在不知道對方真實身分下，反而能夠敞開心扉，發展出戀情。20世紀末，已經沒有多少人真的還在用筆寫信，更甭提傳統的「交筆友」，諾拉艾芙蓉把背景從大蕭條前的布達佩斯搬到當代紐約，男女主角各自成了連鎖大書店、傳統書店的經營者，彼此之間的不對盤更多是因為企業大鯨魚要吞併小蝦米的趨勢變遷，賦予較多的社會意義。男女主角不再寫實體信，而是透過電子郵件來傳情，女主角請教神秘的網友如何擺脫職場上的困境，卻沒料到那個拿「教父」台詞鼓舞她、給她力量的網友正是自己倒胃口的連鎖大書店高層。
上一回在「西雅圖夜未眠」中，湯姆漢克斯的鰥夫深情、難忘已故亡妻，形象非常討喜，反而梅格萊恩扮演的勇敢追愛女記者，較無明顯特出之處，「電子情書」彼此剛好倒過來，梅格的小書店老闆親切、甜美又可人，湯姆漢克斯的角色倒是心機有點重，不無狡猾的手段，就沒有梅格那麼得人疼。這一次湯姆漢克斯與梅格萊恩的對手戲非常多，搭配紐約怡人的風光，幽默逗趣的對白，卡洛爾金獻唱的動聽插曲「Anyone At All」，成為一部絕佳約會電影。
「電子情書」美國排在年底將近耶誕大檔時上映，台灣因為跨年、春節等大檔都已經被一堆特效強片佔據，只好等到隔年的3月底春假檔上映，不過台灣觀眾喜愛湯姆配梅格，片商很輕鬆談到了西片幾家龍頭院線，氣勢如虎添翼，如願開出票房大紅盤，賣座一路開高走高，創下令人眼紅的佳績。
梅格萊恩曾是紅極一時的「美國甜心」，曾經有機會與老公丹尼斯奎德過境台灣轉赴新加坡，當時機場記者趕忙拍攝、想要訪問，她卻露出和銀幕上的甜美完全180度距離的嚴肅表情，令各方驚覺「假戲畢竟不是真實人生」。甜心型的女星最怕形象破壞，無法繼續在銀幕上裝可愛，梅格萊恩就在千禧年捲入與羅素克洛合作拍片傳緋聞事件後，影壇氣勢即重挫，隨後試圖轉型也不成功，又被傳整形失敗、五官巨變，她也愈來愈難搶到大片重要角色，反而丹尼斯奎德在離婚後一度接連演出「明天過後」等票房巨片，出過一陣子鋒頭。
今年逢「當哈利碰上莎莉」在美國上映滿30周年，比利克里斯托與梅格萊恩再度聚首，不少網友感嘆當年的甜姐兒已經不見蹤跡，現在的梅格再也回不去。台灣則是「電子情書」上映滿20周年的紀念，好萊塢文藝喜劇亦有許久沒打進台灣年度票房Top 10，不知哪一對俊男美女的組合能夠刺激台灣影迷進戲院捧場的興趣？
放手過去，一切都將被療癒。2017年，遇見新生的自己。
FORGIVE, LET GO, ALLOW
原諒、放下、允許
Period of Releasing Past traumas...
釋放過往創傷的3個步驟…
如何釋放創傷情緒並清理自己
How to RELEASE these emotions and cleanse yourself？
這是你走向完美健康的旅程上的最重要一步之一。一切始於你, 持續於你，終結於你。
This is one of THE MOST important steps that you are going to take in your journey to perfect health. It all begins with you, continues with you and ends with you.
是你在創造著你的現實，也只有你才能消除你自己的業力。要做到這一點，難以置信的簡單，也非同尋常地複雜，
因為在此過程中你將再次經驗過往所有的創傷、不公、憤怒、負疚和恐懼。但是，這是你達成目標，美好的健康狀態的必經之路。
YOU are the one that is creating your reality and only YOU can ever get rid of your own karma. It’s an incredibly easy and yet debilitating hard thing to do, because when you are going to be going through this exercise you are going to be re- living all the traumas, all the unfairness’s, all the anger, and guilt, and fear of the past, BUT it’s a necessary process for you to go through in order to get to the level of health that you are seeking to get to.
準備好了，讓我們開始吧...
STEP 1
找一個安靜的地方，準備好記事本或坐在電腦前。現在坐下來，深呼吸。
專註於你的呼吸，當你這樣做的時候，開始回憶從你出生那天起的整個生命歷程。
Find a quiet place, get a note pad, or sit by the computer, now sit down and breathe in deeply.
Focus on your breathing and as you do so, begin remembering your whole life from the day that you were born.
STEP 2
寫下關於你生命的一切，所有你曾經歷過的負面體驗，只是寫下它們。
允許一切傾瀉而出，所有的想法，所有你會經驗到的情緒。
如果你認為某人傷害了你，寫下所有關於那個人的負面的東西，你的感受以及為什麼你會有那樣的感受。
檢閱並體驗每一個情緒並且把它們全部寫下來。
你可能會發現自己在哭泣，這很好，你需要釋放掉這些年來你一直背負著的、重重壓著你的所有傷痛。
如果什麼話你希望自己能夠在曾經那一刻對某人說出來， 你需要現在就釋放出來，大聲想說的話，彷彿那個人就站在那裡，告訴他們所有你想說的話。
Write down EVERYTHING about your life, all the negative experiences that you have ever had, just start writing them down.
Allow everything to pour out of you, all the thoughts, all the emotions that you are going to go through, weather you believe that someone has done you wrong, write down all the negatives about that person, what do you feel, and why do you feel that way.
Go through each and every single emotion and keep writing it all down. You are probably going to find yourself crying, and that is good, you need to release all of this pain that you have been carrying with you, that has been weighting you down all these years.
If there was something that you wished to say to someone at that moment in time, you are going to need to release that now, speak out loud, pretend that that person is standing there and tell them all that you wanted to say.
這個過程可能會花上幾天或幾個小時。抽絲剝繭般地你要把每件事都寫下來，寫下關於某個人或某個情境的所有傷痛和所有情緒。
STEP 3
最重要的步驟之一 原諒
一旦釋放了這個情境帶給你的傷痛，你需要有意識的去理解其背後的原因，是否你的所為在某種程度上吸引了這種情境來到你?那個人在試圖教會你什麼呢？
試著記住並理解，即使那個情境糟糕透頂，裡面也一定有一個非常寶貴的功課要你學到，即使你把那個人視為“敵人”，那也僅僅是一個認知而已，因為我們每個人來到這個生命都是要教會他人或由他人教會我們一些東西。
即使你認為那個人傷害了你，即使真的是那樣，眼前的要點是不要抓著這個情境或感受不放，而是要徹底地完全地放下。
Here’s one of the most important steps – FORGIVE – once you have released this situation you need to consciously analyze the reasons behind it, have you acted in some way to attract this situation to yourself, what was the other person trying to teach you.
Try and remember and understand that even if the situation was dire there must have been a very valuable lesson for you in that situation, even if you perceive the person to be your “enemy” it is only a perception, as each of us comes into this life to teach the other person something and to be taught by others.
Even if you think that another person was causing you harm, and even if they were, the point of here now is not to keep holding on to this situation or feeling but to completely and utterly LET GO of it.
你需要有意識地原諒這個人。
要做到這一點，你必須從內心深處明白我們在這裡所經歷的一切都是一種體驗，我們不是彼此的敵人，而是彼此的老師，來幫助彼此的靈魂揚升的越來越高。我們中有些人扮演了“惡人”，演這個角色是非常痛苦的，基本上沒有人喜歡他們，因為他們會推動我們做一些否則根本不會去做的事情。
FOR EXAMPLE 舉例說明 1
比如，有多少次你遇到一個“惡”老師或老闆，給你一個壞成績或對你吼叫或逼迫你；有多少次正是他們戳痛你和逼迫你，使得你不得不要逃脫，不得不為自己的生命作出某些改變，因為他們為你創造的是一個銳利的釘子，使得你無法安坐其上。
有時候在人生路上遇到最壞的人對我們來說是最好的事，正是他們把我們推上正確的方向，並用這種方式來教會我們。
For example, how many times have you had an “evil” teacher or a boss give you a bad grade or yell at you at work, or push you, and how many times did their prodding and pushing create an environment from which you simply HAD to run, you HAD to do something to change your life, because what they created for you was a very sharp nail, on which you no longer could sit. Sometimes the worst people on our path are the best thing that could ever happen to us, as they push us in the right direction and teach us by doing so.
FOR EXAMPLE 舉例說明2
另一個放下的例子
你在和某人約會，當時在放著一首特別的歌，然後你們倆大吵了一架，分手了，或許那時候你深愛著他並認為自己根本離不開他，但你們還是分手了。多年以後你突然聽到那首歌在播放時：
如果你沒有處理當年的情緒，還沒有完全放下分手時你所經受的痛苦和折磨，收音機裏傳來的這首歌會再度令你分崩離析。
然而，如果你已經放下了所有的痛苦，單純的把那段經歷看作是你靈魂進化的助推劑，這時候當你再次聽到這首歌你或者根本沒有註意到它，或者在那一刻你想起了過去，臉上浮現出苦澀的甜蜜微笑，對那段經歷心懷感恩，然後繼續你的一天，完全不會再度陷入憤怒、悲哀和自憐而不能自拔。
這些只是我們每天都可能經歷到的簡單例子，重要的是始終將這些方法應用於我們生命中的經歷。
Another example of letting go of the trigger would be you were dating someone, and you had a special song, you then had a terrible fight and broke up, say you loved that person at that time and thought you couldn’t be without them, but you broke up, years went by and all of a sudden you found yourself listening to this song on the radio. IF you did not deal with your emotions back then and did not let go of all the perceived pain and suffering that you went through when you broke up, that song on the radio will start to tear you apart again.
But should you have let go of all the painful emotions and simply looked at it as a very interesting experience that you’ve had that propelled your soul further，you would then have listened to this song and either not paid attention to it at all, or had a bitter sweet smile on your face remembering the past for a moment, being grateful for that experience and moving on with your day without being paralyzed with anger, sadness and self pity.
All of these are just simple examples of what each of us goes through each day, but it’s important to apply this to your own experiences at all times.
SO 重 要 的 是 !!!!
原諒他們對你來說非常的重要，並不是為了他們，而完全是為了你自己 !
因為無論你對他們的想法如何對他們來說都無關緊要。重要的是你如何回應每一段經歷。
如果你不再沉湎於過去，不再活在那一刻的傷痛裡，而是選擇釋放掉負面情緒的誘因，繼續你的生活，這些痛苦的記憶就不會再困擾你了。
So it’s incredibly important for you to forgive them, NOT FOR THEIR SAKE, but for your very own, because whatever you think of them doesn’t matter to them. What matters is what YOU THINK about any given situation, and if you STOP DWELLING on the past, if you stop living in that moment of pain, but release the TRIGGER and move on with your life, you will no longer be plagued by these painful memories.
💙 STEP 4 💜💜💜
一旦你寫下了一切並把每一段負面經驗都從靈魂中釋放出來，就是時候該收場了。
你不需要再繼續經驗那些了，你只需要做這一次，然後讓自己徹底地從所有這一切中解脫出來。
不要再去看你寫的東西。永遠不要再看。
從一歲到現在，繼續向前，永遠不再回首。
一旦完成這些，你的內在就被徹底清理乾淨了。你需要把前面寫下的東西打印出來或者直接用你的記事本，把它們拿在手上，請說下面的話：
“我現在刪除這些情緒和感受，刪除來自我過往生命的情緒和感受，從現在直到永遠，從現在直到永遠，不帶任何評判，不帶任何恐懼，因為恐懼並不存在，存在的只有愛。
我將這些話語送入光中，以獲得療愈，轉化和愛；我也把這些話語送給造物的父親和母親，送給一切所是的源頭。
作為回流，我請求在所有層面都享有豐盛，在所有層面都享有愛，在所有層面都享有和平，在所有層面都享有感恩， 享有我所希望的、我所擁護的和我相信的一切。
因為我是純潔的，因為我是紫色火焰，因為我是愛，因為我是完美的，因為我充滿力量，因為我就是愛， 我就是善。
因為我是一直被愛著的。”
Once you write everything down and release each and every single situation from your psyche its’ time to wrap it up.
DO NOT RE-READ what you wrote. NEVER RE- READ IT.
You do not need to keep going through these experiences, you need to do this one time and fully release yourself from everything. Start with age 1 to present and keep going and never look back. Once you are done and there is no longer anything left in you.
You are to print out these words or collect your notes, hold them in your hands and say the following:
“I am deleting these emotions, feelings, acquired emotions and feelings from my life, now and forever more, now and forever, without any judgment for all involved, without any fear, for fear does not exist only love exists.
I am sending these words into the light for healing and transmutation, for healing and transformation, for healing and love, and to the father and mother of all of the creation to the source of all that is, and in return I ask to be blessed with abundance on all levels, love on all levels, peace on all levels, gratitude on all levels, and everything else I wish and stand for and believe in.
For I am pure for I am the violet flame, for I am love, for I am perfect, for I am powerful, for I am love itself, and goodness itself.
For I am loved and loved I am.”
STEP 5
燒掉它們
把這些紙放到水槽裡然後點火燒掉，如果火苗燒起來無法控制，你就潑些水來阻止它。
在紙燃燒的過程中，想像著你在釋放所有這些憤怒、挫折、誤解、嫉妒、貪婪、恐懼，所有這些負面情緒都正在從你的內在被清理出去，在被火焰轉化帶入光中，在光中他們會被清理，然後作為歡喜、快樂、成功、愛、理解、謙卑、平衡、和諧、熱情和豐盛回到你這裡。
等這些紙都燒完，你的眼前只剩下灰燼，黑色的灰燼， 請你把它們扔掉，你可以把它們埋在後院或者統統扔進垃圾桶裡，這堆汙垢不再屬於你了。
你已經徹徹底底地清理了一切，任何事都無法阻止你真正地連結你那隻是充滿著光和愛的真正的美麗自我。
BURN THEM.
Take these papers and set them into your sink then light them on fire, if fire gets out of hand you can always splash water on it in order to stop it. As the papers burn, keep thinking that you are releasing all of this anger, frustrations, misunderstanding, jealousy, greed, fear, all the negative emotions are being cleansed out of you, and are being transformed by fire and taken into the light where they will be cleansed and returned back to you as joy, happiness, prosperity, love, understanding, humility, balance, harmony, passion, abundance.
Once the papers finish burning, you will have only ashes remain, black ashes throw them out, you can burry this in your back yard or simply toss them into the garbage, as this pile of dirt no longer belongs to you.
You have completely been cleansed out of everything, and there is nothing stopping you from truly connecting to your true beautiful self full of only love and light!
Love all & Serve all
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